How to have effective, long-lasting relationships.

Hey, guys! Do you know why we were born? It's because of our parents....
It's because our parents loved each other. But, for how long, it's up to you to determine. But, if they didn't love each other that long, then you may have been a product of lust or infatuation.

So, why don't most relationships last?
It's because both parties pretend to love each other(or at least one of the two). It's because people FIND love instead of letting love look for them. It's because people love at the wrong time. Sad, but true.

Ever wondered why couples who met at the jeep are likely to last longer than that couple in your class who had been "playing" with each other? And, by playing, I don't mean the literal meaning nor pretense.
But, COURTING by the male "lover".

See where the problem is? Men court because they want to CONVINCE the girl to love them, they want to IMPRESS the girl of their true nature. Whereas doing otherwise would NATURALLY introduce your true characteristics to a woman.

Most of the time, when men court, they get denied because girls don't happen to like the way they act -  or their moves in general. But, when you show the girl WHO YOU REALLY ARE, they're MORE LIKELY going to get impressed(not just by your personality, but because you're being yourself towards her).

Or, let's say. You got her sweetest "Yes!" and you've been on for months. You're likely gonna break up, unless you  do whatever she tells you to do. Why does she tell you to do things? That's because she was expecting you to do those things because YOU MADE HER expect so by courting her.

Shall you not court(ahem...try to impress) her and she will know how NATURALLY this and that you are and she won't tell you to be this and that because she already KNOWS that you're THIS and THAT.

Unless you STOP courting/impressing the woman you love, you won't get that far to that anniversary you've been expecting - nor that first kiss you've been dreaming.

Now, I'm not saying that you should show her how unimpressive you are. Show her how GREAT your life is without ASKING her "how good is my life?"